The midwives don’t like us
So the midwife group told us they were full, but what I think they were really telling us is that we are not their preferred clients. It appears that if you want a midwife to accept you then you have to tell them that you would not want an epidural. I think they do this more to see if you have a similar philosophy. So if you are contacting a midwife group, you should have some idea of whether or not you want a natural birth.
Now to me, the term "natural birth" brings to mind hippies, and incense and giving birth at home without any medical supervision. I don't know where I got this image from, but now I hear that this term really means "drug-free" birth which is something I can relate to.
I did do some research on epidurals, but it is really difficult to research since every source has a different opinion. Many of the sites are trashing the "What to expect when you are expecting" book since it doesn't put enough stress on the risks and this is a book trusted by many. There are definatly other sections in the book that I don't agree with, such as the chapter on pre-testing and termination of babies with problems. They seemed to suggest that it was ok to consider terminating! I know there is something that not everyone is going to agree on, but they should have shown both sides more equally.
I found some medical web-sites about epidurals, but they are also very single-opinionated and some of them get into details and terminology that I am not familiar with.
So anyway, it doesn't matter right now. We didn't get accepted by the midwives and now I am going to go with either my family doctor or an ob-gyn. I think I like the idea of an ob-gyn better since they are dedicated to this type of medicine, and it means I don't need to sit in the waiting room with a lot of sick people (colds, flus) while I wait for appointments. Also, my doctor has been very rushed the past few times I have seen her and I really want more time to discuss things.
Isn’t Morning sickness supposed to be in the morning!
I just finished writing a post, but then I lost it. Damn. Let me try to re-write it.
So what I was saying is that over the past few days I have been feeling really nauseous in the afternoons. I feel fine when I wake up, except that I am really tired since I am not able to get a full night's sleep.
My Mum has recommended that I always try to keep something in my stomach, however that doesn't seem to be helping. Although the concept of snacking all day long is very attractive to me, I know I need to be careful not to gain lots of weight, especially so early.
I want to tell people that I am pregnant, but I know that it is still the first trimester and things are not certain. I especially don't want anyone from work to know. I have a female mentor that I am going to talk to about what the best way is to annouce my pregnancy to my manager.
If you read my earlier rant about work, then you will know that they annouced promotions and I didn't get one. However I talked to my manager on Tuesday and he is planning on promoting me later in the year assuming the business is doing well. I am still worried that I might lose my promotion due to maternity leave, but I will make sure that I know all my legal rights first.
I love having an anonymous blog where I can rant about work and pregnancy stuff. I don't even care how many people are reading this blog. I am just writing it for myself and I love it.
We contacted a midwife organization which we found through the Association for Ontario Midwives. They asked if I wanted to have an Epidural or not? How am i supposed to know that at this point? I need to talk to someone about all the risks first. I did some reading and it appears that it can mess with low blood pressure, and since I already have low blood pressure, there may be extra risks I need to be aware of. Anyway, we are on the list and will have to see if we get accepted or not. There is a much bigger demand than supply. I am surprised there are not more in the profession, I think it would be a very rewarding job to see babies being born all the time. Although they must have to work a lot of strange hours since babies arrive when they want to, and it usually is at strange times of day.
Told my parents
Yesterday I felt great. I actually slept more than 8 hours and I was able to get up early and get some of my work done.
My parents came over for dinner and we told them. They were of course really happy for us, my Mum wanted to start looking at knitting patterns right away. She likes knitting, but only for babies.
I cooked a chicken/brocolli/cheese cassarole, which tasted great even though the top didn't brown like it was supposed to. It wasn't as fancy as I wanted to cook for them, but I was able to cook it ahead of time and then spend time chatting with them before dinner. Then we had some fruit salad for dessert.
So now I have someone I can email and ask questions all the time who has already gone through this. She had fairly easy pregnancies and I am hoping that I do too. We are not going to annouce it to the wider world yet, but I know I would need to talk to my Mum if anything happened.
Last night I didn't sleep well so I am feeling a bit dopey again today. Although I just had a cup of tea, so hopefully that will help.
I am starting to rethink the whole mid-wife idea. I think using a midwife would be better as long as I can be at/near a hospital when delivering just in case. I don't think I am a high-risk pregnancy. I am 33, which isn't young, but isn't old either. So we are probably going to start looking into what options we have here.
